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Clearly I’ve failed on the whole “not passing judgment” thing, so I might as well just add a bit more.

It’s things like this that gives working moms a bad rap. I mean, I’m (obviously) all for involving professional caregivers in the upbringing of my children. I think they’re better for it, in fact.

But, there are those who argue that I’m letting someone else raise my children while I work (or blog, as the case may be this morning). When you work, you have to be willing to FULLY devote yourself once you get home. Hobbies fly out the window. “Me” time is the occasional shower you have to yourself.

If work makes you (or your partner) too tired to get up with your INFANT at night, then really, you need to reevaluate your priorities. If you don’t, I think–in all honesty–you deserve the wrath coming from the other side in the “Mommy Wars.”

Some moms work outside of the home, some don’t. I don’t really care–do what suits you and your family. But please be a responsible, loving parent and devote some time your kids when you are at home.

Whew. Passing judgment is so cathartic. Why did I decide to cut back?

I’m really trying to be less judgmental, so I’m just going to simply post a link to this article without any additional comment.

But, if I were to comment, it would be along the lines of “Really? You can’t get up with your OWN CHILD in the middle of the night?” I might also be tempted to add that as a working mom, there’s a part of me that enjoys that time (or at least feels like I should).

And, what I really want to know is, how do you get around the guilt? I feel guilty if Bryan gets up with Olivia.

I just cannot fathom this. Sleep deprivation makes you do strange things, I guess.

Again, though, not passing judgment. To each their own.

Whatever.