Smith Family Weblog

We are still basking in the glow of a weekend with Debbie, Jason, Leo, Wyatt and Sylvia. Come back soon!

August 8th marks a sad day for our family. As I added the year next to my signature this morning, I realized this particular August 8th marks 10 years since we received the heartbreaking, but unsurprising, call about Grandma Dankleff.

Ten years? Is that even possible?

On one hand, ten years seems like no time at all, considering I can still hear her voice and recall exactly how she would answer the phone when I dialed. I can easily picture her hands—almond shaped nails and a new brushed gold wedding band, the original having worn through after decades of contact with a tractor’s steering wheel. I can smell the coffee in the pot on the counter, brewed and waiting for Grandpa, who was soon to come in from the field.

But while these memories are still very fresh, much has changed in the past decade.

The last time I saw Grandma, I showed her photos of the house we had just purchased–a small, two bedroom ranch in Madison. I remember she asked about the orientation of the driveway, concerned about the combination of a fierce wind and the snowy winter to come. Now, we’re in a new home, in a state to the south of hers. We have graduate degrees and evolving careers.

Ten years ago, I hadn’t considered much in the way of starting a family.  Now, I have spent the past six years wondering what Grandma would think of my daughters, and wondering if Ava and her sister will even believe the stories I will eventually share, or if they will just assume they’ve grown grandiose as they swirled in my mind over the years.

Her last instructions were to “take care of each other,” and I believe we’ve done a relatively good job of that. It hasn’t always been particularly easy to navigate relationships without her presence and guidance, but I had 23 years to learn from her example. Ten years later, I still wish I’d had 20 more.

Congratulations to Tom and Katie! Tom proposed to Katie on her 30th birthday, and she happily accepted. We’re looking forward to a wedding sometime next year.

Admittedly, I’m always a bit lazy with my camera when I’m around the Smith family–the group is teeming with outstanding photographers who do a fabulous job of documenting our gatherings. The reunion was no exception. Many albums are up on Facebook, and you can see Doug’s via the link on the right. But, here are a few of my shots from the “Everyonesmith Reunited” reunion, which was held at Lake Okoboji in northern Iowa. The setting was perfect, the weather was wonderful, and the plans were flawless. The company, though, was the best part.

I feel pretty fortunate to part of this family–thank you to everyone who had a hand in making this such a fun week. We look forward to 2012!